How Can A Husband Love His Wife Like Christ Loves The Church? 
Ephesians 5:25 (KJV): “Husbands, love your wives, even
as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”
The following needs to take place:
1. Romans 10:9-13 (KJV): “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
A man must be saved, knowing Jesus Christ as his Savior and Lord.
2. 2 Corinthians 5:17 (KJV): “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”
A spiritually saved man is considered a new creation in Christ. He is now capable of living his life under a new set of principles.
3. Galatians 2:20 (KJV) “I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.”
A spiritually saved man has Christ living in him through the Holy Spirit. He is now capable of letting Christ love through him as he should. Therefore Christ's love is his love. The wife now receives Christ's love directly through both her husband as well as through Christ Himself.
4. Galatians 5:22-23 (KJV): “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Not only is the husband’s love for his wife, as declared in Scripture, now possible, but there is also a change in his character as he seeks to be filled with the Holy Spirit. The fruit of the Spirit is actually the character of Christ displayed in believers as they yield to the Holy Spirit in accordance with the Word of God.
It is unfortunate that many women have never experienced this kind of love. Often it is because they are not looking for it nor expecting it. This love does not replace passion or fondness but adds a third dimension to what already exists. Read 1 Corinthians 13:1-8 and note that this love is translated "charity" in the King James Version of the Bible, meaning that it is merciful and gracious. Any Spirit-filled husband can love his wife as described in Ephesians 5:25.
In His Grace,
Pastor Ernest F.Brodie Sr.
Pastor Emeritus